About the Manual

The Nerd Manual is meant to be both a useful resource for nerds and a guide for the people involved with nerds. If you're a nerd you can find information here that will help you improve your life and perhaps better understand yourself. If you're close friends with, dating, or married to a nerd, I want to give you insight into things nerds do that a lot of people have difficulty understanding.


I hope to avoid offending anyone--either nerd or non-nerd--but please understand that the manual will get into some sensitive topics, stray into contentious territories, and even use stereotypes to illustrate points. It's OK to disagree with something, but keep your comments civil.

2025-12-10

Nerdy Fashion


Quick, when I say “nerd fashion” what pops into your head? Maybe T-shirts with sayings that make no sense to half the general population. Ill-fitting clothes fashionable over a decade ago. Bizarre accessories. A photographer's vest. Maybe even...fanny packs.

The concept of poorly dressed nerds is definitely a stereotype. Sure, the fashionistas don't understand the significance of a bow tie and fez, but these are accessories that mean something to nerds. Maybe they aren't cool by mainstream standards, but neither are leg warmers, and you know those were a huge hit in the 80s.

So, who's the bigger fashion victim, the person sporting a fedora and heavy framed glasses, or the person wearing suspenders over a My Little Pony t-shirt?

That's a trick question, of course. “Nerd” fashion is (at the time of this article) fashionable. But the point is, fashion is fickle--one day your Ugg boots are the must-have accessory, the next day they're the equivalent of wearing spats--but nerds bend fashion to their will, turning cultural whims into iconography.

Where do nerds get their ability to completely circumvent fashion?

Nerds have a key understanding about fashion (whether they realize it or not): fashion makes no sense. There is no way to predict who will be the arbiter of style, there is absolutely no practical purpose for most fashion choices, and changing one's entire wardrobe every year just to keep up with trends is hideously expensive. (I'm not being negative about fashion. I believe people should be able to wear whatever they want without ridicule.) Starting from this understanding, nerds usually approach fashion from one of two directions: either they focus solely on practicality when choosing clothing, or they deliberately dress counter to current popular trends. Often times you'll find nerds mixing both of these approaches to some degree.

Most nerds see clothes through a practical lens--as nothing more than a body covering mandated by societal conventions, a way to protect the human hide from the elements, and something with lots of pockets for stashing gadgets--which means they quite possibly also have no grasp of the emotional significance of fashion trends. This might be connected to the nerd mind's tendency to gravitate toward logic over emotion. People who understand fashion realize that it isn't as simple as picking up a magazine and ordering whatever the celebrities are wearing because there's an element of individual emotional connection.

Of course, whether a nerd has an emotional reaction to his choice of attire sometimes takes a back seat to practicality. The nerd who spends 12 hours a day in a cold server room needs to stay warm while being able to reach Ethernet cables two feet above their heads, and a sporty silk blazer just won't fit those needs.

On the other hand, the nerd who actively rebels against fashion trends is acutely aware of the emotional connotations of fashion and is certainly conscious of current trends. Fashion rebellion can range from apathy about whatever is trendy, to making deliberately radical fashion decisions that oppose popular trends.

Some people might consider practicality boring or scoff at deliberately counter-cultural clothing choices, but there's nothing inherently wrong with taking either approach to clothing. However, sometimes it's helpful to blend in with the mainstream, so understanding how to leverage fashion might come in handy.

2021-07-28

(Not So) Nerd Q&A: Why Do People Care If I'm Still a Virgin?

When you're in high school, and possibly later in life, you might be led to believe that everyone is obsessed with one topic--boys AND girls talk about it, parents (awkwardly) talk about it, TV shows devote episodes to it, entire movies use it as the central plot element.

Some of my classmates constantly ask me if I am still a virgin. I choose to not answer the question because I know what their reactions are going to be like, but since I don't follow the high school trend of talking about it all the time they see me like a weirdo. Why do they care if I'm still a virgin?

I realize this isn’t a particularly nerdy question, but I’m sure a lot of young people think about it, and I believe it would put a few minds at rest if they had a better perspective on what makes this nugget of knowledge everyone's obsession.

The truth is, the people asking you about this don’t care if you've had sex or not. What they care about is where they stand in comparison to everyone else, on an arbitrary scale of coolness and popularity.

What they’re really asking is an internal question: “is this girl/guy so much more attractive than I am that s/he has already had sex and I haven’t?”

It's a pretty silly question. In reality if you could tell just by looking, you’d see (depending on their age, socioeconomic status, geographic location, and whether you’re looking at CDC, NCHS, or NHSR data) that about 60% to 85% of the students in your high school have not had sex.

I know there will be at least one indignant reader out there thinking “but at my school all the kids had sex by the time they were 16!” Ahem…no. A lot of the kids said they had sex, very likely some did, most didn’t, and of course some lied about it. 

I know putting up with your classmates' questions is uncomfortable, but you’re doing the right thing to not answer. It’s none of their business.

(By the way, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with having sex. I think people should wait until they’re out of high school, but I’m not judging anyone who isn’t a virgin. It’s none of my business either.)
 

2020-06-10

Nerd Toys: Vintage Microscope

Some people like vintage cars, others like vintage computers, I like vintage microscopes.

I just received my AO Spencer Series 4 microscope. It's in good shape, and I got it because I don't see Series 4 models around much. Now that I have it though, I question the wisdom of my choice because I need to clean and adjust a few things but I can't find a manual for it anywhere.

There's a great microscope support group over at Microbe Hunter, so if you're into microscopy of any sort, you should take a look and consider joining their forum.

2020-01-12

Real Life Nerds: World Record Spaghetti Marshmallow Tower

u/codesherpa's tower
Check out Reddit user u/codesherpa, who not only built what may be the world record spaghetti tower constructed within the restrictions posed by Peter Skillman's tower challenge, but also went to great lengths to explain the structural engineering behind his tower, and why he believes that it's unlikely anyone will be able to build one much taller than 65 inches.

The tower challenge can be seen in Skillman's TED talk, but the rules are pretty simple:
in eighteen minutes, teams must build the tallest free-standing structure out of 20 sticks of spaghetti, one meter of tape, one meter of string, and one marshmallow. The marshmallow needs to be on top. (codesherpa is working at a slight disadvantage because he's using yards instead of meters, so his materials are a bit restricted.)

Taking the challenge seriously, codesherpa went home and tested ten varieties of spaghetti to determine which is the sturdiest, and engineered a design that maximized the structural integrity of his limited resources. If you read through the comments, codesherpa also explains the other different designs he tried, and the difficulties of working with a cat.

What makes this such a nerdy reddit post isn't so much the spaghetti tower, although that's certainly an enjoyable part of it, but it's codesherpa's attention to detail, meticulous planning, application of engineering knowledge, and iterative testing to accomplish a completely frivolous task. It's a delight to read the initial post and the discussion between users in the comments, and I think the world is better for having people like codesherpa who are willing to share nerdy experiments like this.

2019-12-23

Hijack a Satellite

Image from Lockheed Martin
If you're interested in computer security, the US Air Force is offering people the chance to test the robustness of their satellite network with their challenge to hijack a satellite during a live event at Defcon 2020. Read more at Wired, and consider taking the Air Force up on the opportunity test your mettle against military equipment.